Children want to buy you buy? Comparison of the heart so buy back
mamayuedu· 2016-05-04 18:58:42
Just 4 year old
our baby, this two days come back always pestering me to say a thing "Mom, I want to be a princess" "I to XX that Princess Doll" I always the same answer to her, that is home has many such Princess Doll, you see light is Barbie princess you have so much ah. But she would seriously say to me, the princess is not as good as the children's home, not as good as other people's beautiful, in short, that is the other people's good, to be the same as the princess.
my mother and I went to the students at home the, he has your iPad is entirely his own, unlike I at home play while the iPad still have to use you must also want you to agree, I also want a belong to my own, to me to buy a bar & hellip; & hellip; < this scene you are not also have met? Other children have this, my classmates have that, I also want to buy back to me, why not to me? Why am I not?
usually points to eat, drink, play, you are not still feel able to cope with? But like the iPad, iPhone, what kind of car people at home father and other people to remember what house & hellip; & hellip; such development down the comparisons of the heart is not also make you a little worried, say up may every child has had comparisons of the heart, we honor a free.
children love comparison is a common performance, in fact, not only your own home, a lot of children in the growth stage will have such a psychological, so, the child is a little bit psychological comparison is normal. Comparisons will not only have a negative impact, there will be a positive effect, for example, learning, the appropriate use of the opportunity to compete in life will allow children to work hard, adjust the state, to move forward and catch up with others. So, parents how to guide the child is also very important.
1, do we give children a manufacturing competition environment
like a child is the family side of the mirror, so when the parents began to complain about the child problems, first from our own to see whether there is a need to change.
for example, there is no often their children and other people's home to compare? Usually when the party is also a child's face often discuss clothes, shoes which "brand" "the latest"? < p > at home, husband and wife two from time to time talking about friends and colleagues of the environment that occupy the home, what kind of car, the rank and, the conversation between not day will create atmosphere of competition, but children imitate the strongest, unknowingly being affected.
2, can not meet the requirements of the child, to be appropriate to meet the
, especially in children need to pay more attention to the child, this will be the basis for training habits. Children see other people's toys will not move, have to be the same; school time to see what other students with a bag, stationery, will follow the trend to buy the same paragraph.
most parents feel that these are not a big thing, the child to give anything, in short, do not wronged the child, but this is no limit to the development of indulgence. If blindly to meet the competition idea will only encourage the child's vanity, continuously for a long time later probably will get more and more exaggerated, the total is not that day will parents so overwhelming.
3, on the money consciousness training from an early age to start
usually in life many children and related things can let them know, such as from the children like to eat candy, cookies to price expensive toys, children's clothes, parents are able to let the children know that their prices. 3-6 in children
years of age, we can carry out a number of game education, let the children know the money, understand the use of money. Sometimes go shopping also let their children take part in, know the price to buy goods, also can let the child learn to use money in real life, slowly will understand the value of some of the items, money view also slowly erected, also reduce the child in physical competition consciousness.