In this way, punish the child, do not fight, do not scold, the effect is better

Baby baby the world in the eyes of a child

Dismap· 2017-08-12 22:04:05

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a child Kai TERT mistakes several times "cramming" preaching, children are not correct, many parents eager to punish the child.

in fact, a lot of the time, the child's initial behavior is not so bad, but because we joined in the punishment when their emotions, it makes the problem more complex, and finally get out of hand.

's punishment for children is not punishment, not punishment. It is more like a vaccine. It can cause fever and discomfort, but it can bring great immunity to the children.

this article tells us that getting rid of violence can give children good tutoring as well.

some time ago online crazy pass a video

, a four or five year old child,

his hands grabbed a piece of raw meat meat of the fierce bite a few mouthfuls, a female

then next to the caregiver (possibly mother)

according to the child's mouth is several slap, < /p>

beat the boy Meng Meng brain head straight back.

some netizens feel pretty good,

said, "bear child repaired once, next time long memory.".

some netizens heartache, said

should not be so indiscriminately hit children, parents is the parents bear

.

kids naughty,

, some books say, to the child's misconduct to implement "discipline", "

" so that children will abide by the rules, understand manners,

grow up to better adapt to society.

, but another book said, to give the child "unconditional love",

can not be reprimanded for the child,

, otherwise it will cause psychological trauma to the child,

affect the child for life.

these books are written by senior experts, they have complete sets of

theory, there are a lot of cases are with certainty.

, but when the kids in the family did something bad and

made the mistake, who did they listen to?

can't always change by single and double numbers?

or check the almanac, look at today is "Yi Shi Family"?

in fact, whether or not to punish children,

has positive and negative views have their own reason,

, but not entirely, why? Because

are not clear, the four principles of disciplining children need to pay attention to the

:

01

: first principles of objective standard to have a judgment wrong child behavior is most of the time, the child made a mistake parents disciplining children for

but we rarely think calmly, what is

evaluation the wrong standard? Is

from an adult's point of view or from a child's point of view? How old is

from a child's point of view?

, such as a four month old baby,

suddenly began to bite her mother's nipples when she was nursing, and

made her mother bite. Is that wrong? Does

need to be disciplined?

actually each breastfeeding mom will encounter such a situation,

this is a very normal phenomenon in the process of mental development of children, since

is normal, the child is not wrong, it is not necessary to punish

.

but I also encountered a mother,

children each bite her nipples,

she was in the boy's ass and hit a few times,

children won't bite, she is pleased to have

to other mother shared her experience,

but she didn't know his arms without "wronged"

children psychologically affected much. For example,

two two-year-old children playing together,

pushing each other, the one another down,

fall is not light, crying,

the perpetrators should be "punishment"?

if the punishment, this child can be wronged.

because he weighed more than 40 pounds, the other only more than 20 pounds,

each other vigorously pushed him several times, he was still.

he nudged each other, and the other party fell.

, he pushes me. Yes, I can't push him.

, I'm fat, I'm big, isn't it my fault?

parents don't want their kids to lie to themselves, and

thinks it's bad behavior. Psychologist

designed an experiment,

in advance on the table for an electric toy train, called up.

then find a three year old child into the room, let him back to the

covered with a cloth toy to sit down,

researchers remove the cloth, and then

told him to go out to get something, let the children don't look back at

.

the experimenter opened the toy switch and went out.

, then, there was no one else in the lab except the kid.

behind the child came the sound of the train's toy, and

whistled every now and then. The child looked back quickly,

, then turned his head. After a while, the experimenter came in and

asked the child if he had peeked. The child smiled and said no. the

experimenter played the train toy with his child.

the experiment in three year old children to repeat many times,

statistics showed that 70% of the children will choose to peek, peek

100% children are not admitted,

also found that the more clever child will peep

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