It's no harm to let children eat a little bit of bitterness! How to bear hardships, parents guide is very important
zhongguoyouerjiaoyuwang· 2017-11-02 10:10:37
when I was young, the old people told us: "do not eat a small loss to suffer a great deal, do not eat bitter bitter. "That is to say, a child at a young age, eat a little bitter, encountered some difficulties, is a good thing. If we are afraid of children suffer, and bear the responsibility of the child, although away crying and entanglement of children, has deprived children cultivate good character and self development ability, which is great harm.
a few days ago in a TV news: a mother bear bitter hardships raised his son, the son graduated from university soon after work. However, he often quit the job for less than a month, always complaining about the heavy workload, getting up early in the morning, working overtime at night, too hard and too tired to stand.
for two years, his son to stay at home, or go online to play computer games, either with the mother is not much salary to the community recreation time. For the mother of the accused, he What one says is plausible. said: "if you can't feed my life, why I grew up on so spoiled? After the program aired, many parents fell into deep thought, whether there is such a potential crisis in their own home?" when I was young, the old people told us: "do not eat a small loss to suffer a great deal, do not eat bitter bitter. "That is to say, a child at a young age, eat a little bitter, encountered some difficulties, is a good thing. If we are afraid of children suffer, and bear the responsibility of the child, although away crying and entanglement of children, has deprived children cultivate good character and self development ability, which is great harm.
we always say that the children are not sensible, but do not know because we protect too good, not let them sensible. In order to let the children from Xiao Ming to considerate for others, understanding parents, should let children eat bitter, let them know the sufferings of the world, know how to cherish, understand.
kids are mostly smart now, but most of them fail to achieve the desired success at the end because they lack willpower and lack the spirit of sticking to the ground. Children and adolescents are the basic stage of life. It is very important and necessary for parents to consciously create conditions to carry out hardship education for their children. "Endure hardship" is a kind of psychological endurance.
how to let the children suffer, eat what kind of pain? Collect summarize the following points, and parents to share.
1. parents have to let the children suffer consciousness
such as children learn to walk, don't always hold her heart, parents can be found by parents who always helped children learn to practice walking walking takes longer time than those who go to practice the children spend time. Parents are willing to let the children go to eat the bitter:
1. to five or six year old child, let him help you some things, sweep the floor and clean the table, and tell him how to save electricity, but also can teach them to tidy my room.
2. children go to school, tell them some simple safety knowledge, to save the cost of stationery.
3. holiday, let the children know the toilet wash, smelly and dirty is a part of life.
4. appropriate to let the children do menial work and hard work, they know that parents have to take care of.
5. children in middle school, to manage their own living expenses, money is so much, overspending, can only starve.
6. children of various life skills, so that they have a strong practical ability.
7. children around fifteen years old, asked him to take part in social activities outside, exercise themselves, contact the society, cultivate the spirit of hardship.
2. children should be independent,
cultivate children's independent will, reduce dependence on others. The child is responsible for their own things.
at home, independent of their own daily life, cleaning their own room, cleaning their own goods, learning, independent thinking, independent completion, psychologically independent.
parents can not replace children to consider the problem, to the children to think about themselves, respect the views of the children, so that children can think independently, can have their own ideas, so as to lay the foundation for the success of the future of children.
3. parents take the initiative to bear hardships with their children,
to know, only to know the enjoyment of parents, it is impossible to cultivate a "hard-working" children. So parents can participate in morning sports with their children, participate in sports, such as playing together, swimming together, traveling together, which can increase the opportunity to communicate with children, but also let the children get exercise. Can bear hardships from daily life, little bit of accumulation, from a piece of compromise do not concede small things.
for example: the weather is very cold, the children do not intend to go to the kindergarten today, parents do not give children braved the cold to take their children to the kindergarten; the scorching sun, go home at night very tired, parents and children as usual to shower, not asleep; parents and children running again ten meters to arrive the scheduled end point, the children gasped don't run, parents encourage their children together, ran to the end point...... This pile of
, a piece of exercise, honed the children, so that they have a strong will quality, so that they can endure hardship. The more love children, the more to strengthen his "hardship" education. Let the children eat bitter suffer, is the true love and responsibility.
4. little bit of accumulation, no compromise
, for example, when the children do not want to get up in the cold winter; when the child is difficult to complete a hand
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