Children fighting parents how to stop this "war"?
mamayuedu· 2016-05-23 00:23:13
Valley has a "small", is the real "small", born 31 days to know, he is. Now he is called the valley of the valley of the king, for he is 5 days old. And valley is called happy "Xiao wang". Called the a TV mini series of the story of
king, Wang and two children to you, to me, look to your heart pounding.
at the beginning, that is, before the age of 3, valley occupy a significant advantage, he is more than a little big. They often play together, playing together, the defeat is always happy. Very thank Huanhuan parents and Huanhuan's grandfather, although almost every time is Huanhuan injured, I watched grandpa pulled Huanhuan was a sound to go, don't play with the valley, but they never rushed Valley hair burned. Later, Grandpa saw Dell Valley, pulled a small Huanhuan away, as if the wolf comes.
but happy mother's father is not angry at all. In kindergarten, because of the mother's reminder, two children on the same class to a kindergarten. < p > kindergarten soon, one day, the valley and Huanhuan grab a ball, Huanhuan up a bit in the face of Google, the valley faces bitten spent. When I see, my tears began to fall. I put my arms around my arms. Kindergarten teacher said: "I'm sorry, did not see. The valley can be brave, he didn't cry. "I embrace Valley, tears of joy to drop, but I did not want to find Huanhuan, because in the past three years, a small Huanhuan has been in enduring small valley, he must to vent grievances of his heart, this friendship was balanced.
's face took a few months. In the middle of the month, and the valley of the valley of happy and always see the run. This is the longest time between them.
fight kids in addition to play the main melody of
fight happen in very unexpected, they may to a small stick, a stone, a toy who to linger for a while. They do not seek, not ready to begin, do not know how to end. Therefore, the children of the "war" is not as full of adults as the heart, his excitement may be just that moment, the next second, he forgot they had a fight.
more serious "war", it may affect their contacts for some time, but does not affect the quality of the entire friendship, they like rubber bands, was a fight to open, and then get closer. Kids always stick with the people he used to play with, and they have forgotten what they did.
understood this, whether he bullied other people or he was bullied, that is a matter of children, adults once to intervene, it changed the nature of things. So when he and other children to fight, you can taught him how to deal with and at the appropriate time to escape, but he can't fight, to put him in your cage, protect him no longer injured, do not hurt the animals is can't grow. I will not be involved in the "battle" of him and his children, telling him how to beat him. He will learn how to avoid "war" in "combat" ".
if he always wins in the war, the result is probably not good, he will be isolated, then let him know what is isolated. Only when he realizes that he has no friends is more difficult than the small stick, he will know how to treat a partner.
sometimes, "war" is more serious, adults and how to intervene in the children of the "war"? < p > child psychologist Smith and Ross, through their study concluded, for 3-10 years old children, < strong > adult mediator intervention:
(1) let every child speak their own point of view.
(2) encourages them to discuss their respective purposes and feelings. < p > (3) inspired they would put their heads together and think I should how to solve these contradictions, so as to establish the basic principles of handling disputes, and to limit the expansion of quarrel and hostility deepened.
at this time the children will be able to better understand each other's ideas and friendly to resolve the dispute, and even the next time a similar situation can be so. < say their views, let them express themselves, if adult force to resolve the conflict, children may not understand each other's point of view, a quarrel with the core content is still not resolved, or party seem to have won, a party seem to lose way to solve.