The boy said with irony, is tricky
mamayuedu· 2016-06-23 00:31:15
came home from work yesterday, small square, just hit a child in a stalemate, the mother asked the children to go home, the child would not hit the mother, the mother felt in a public occasion under estimation was stimulated to face, also maybe when I met them before the conflict, only to hear the mother to depressed but still can hear angry voices of the children said: "you play a try? "If it's an adult who understands this tone of voice is a warning. But as a 3 year old looks is like a child, obviously confused, if the first mother is desperate last ditch, so this time, the mother's permission to play or not to play? I started to slow down, Piantou observed the child obviously hesitated, and then he raised his hand to beat up, of course, the children did not succeed, the mother grabbed his hand, and then directly dragged home.
watching this scene, somehow suddenly popped up a conversation and my baby before:
baby he was playing, my clothes in the side fold, suddenly the baby automatic speaking way: "you come and smell the baby here, I told you to eat this. "I froze, can not help but stop the movement of the hands of the child:" how do you say that they are smelly baby? "Baby back to me:" my baby is smelly ah, small smelly, smelly, you are often told me? "I suddenly wake up, the original responsibility in me.
yes, this is today want to come and talk about the children with ironic topic, whether I had ever experienced without the so-called malicious endearment or irony, I encountered the want to express anger and warning with irony mother, improper use of irony, is not really understand children, may will be hurt.
although many parents are probably like me, always remind myself that the child must be done because the child is just like a white paper, be the same outside and inside, simple, kind, how can we do the children will learn how to. But in life we are always going to be contrary to their own reminder. Like I told children the pet name, there are a lot of parents may also be blurted out "little fool, bad guy, little stupid", for us adults, when people called this, often can understand and feel full of love. But for young children, they can not read this irony, unable to understand the meaning, this kind of so-called pet parents may inadvertently hurt the child's self-esteem, self-confidence, may affect the child's psychological health growth.
because the child's mind is often a single, more young children are more simple, their understanding of their parents talk content is "one of the one or two is simply two" type. Sometimes parents behind want to express the meaning of "a phrase with a double meaning" or language, children can not fully understand. Just in front of the mother of this is to stop the adult behavior in children, let the children confused her. So, for children, especially young children, if parents often say irony, children will be very confused, and sometimes parents with completely different discourse expression would let the children unable to guess the true meaning of parents, this is also not conducive to the development of the ability of children to understand.
so, most of the time, I do not support parents mean, after that time and my baby talk, even the habitual pet irony, I made myself get rid of, but also has good drops and EVA explained it, let the children understand it by, and understand that is love call transfer.
however, education is a wonderful thing, there is no static situation. With the children mean sometimes have a certain effect of magical education. Say "no" the first rebellious stage in children super love children, self consciousness and independent consciousness increase, when the child seems to all our response is "no, not good, not to · · ·" like instinct, without denying parents of the brain it is in this particular stage of growth characteristics, they prove the existence of self in such a way, to declare their rights to my parents.
so, for this rebellious children, sometimes can play a multiplier effect. For example, when I found the baby's own self-awareness into the bursting stage, in order to let the baby go home every day to wash your hands before playing or eating habits, I had to try in the door to say: "you don't wash your hands, clothes are wet. "The result is baby say" I don't ", and then ran to the bathroom to wash myself, and I Pidianpidian behind the heart, super evil laughing, but his mouth said:" you do not wash, wet clothes. "This is in the stage of a portrayal of the daily details I and EVA, at that time I will basically according to the situation to decide whether to use irony to guide the baby to do something.
however, this stage soon ended, because for children, under normal circumstances, the saying "no" stage automatically at the end of the two or three months up to six months (of course, if the parents deal with improper may potentially prolong the child rebellious stage), so also remind you in the use of irony. Type of education, we must pay attention to the child's growth characteristics, ready to change and improve our way of communication with the child at any time.
to know, the child's growth process, even if it is the same child, there is no way to always be effective, there is no way to fit all the children. So, finally, I still want to remind parents, please understand their children, to find a suitable way to guide our children's education, and establish the child appropriate communication mode. Each stage of growth!